I am catching up...OK what I would mind about it would be the intrusiveness...It would be like my going and reading his mail at home while he was at work,,,I do not PAY him to come here and read up on what I say...I have shared posts from another site I use to belong to and I CHOSE what to share..It to me would feel so....sneaky...Now if he asked me that would be different..I don't think i say much in here that would be of a shock to him....or surprise...maybe my fears and all on his hating me but I have said that to him too. My T spends a lot of personal time on the puter I would not doubt he would look at these kind of sites to gain insight in general...not looking for me lol.....but man if he saw some of my old threads on another site...he would blush