I don't know if it's mainly my depression causing me to think so negatively at times about this relationship or there really are a lot of problems. Maybe it's a little of both. It's been my experience that depression will make EVERYTHING worse than it really is. This is why many other members have suggested that you do not make any life changing decisions going into, in, or coming out of a depression. By definition you judgement isn't 100%.

Anyway, lately things have seemed to take a turn for the worse. It seems like he doesn't want to put forth the effort to communicate how he feels to me. Yesterday, he started to wrestle with me and i wondered what brought that on so i asked him if he was bottling up any anger or resentment towards me and he just totally dodged the question by saying Okay, Dr. Phil. Please don't take this the wrong way, but is there are reason you took this playful gesture and chose to take it a sign of something negative? Are you doing this frequently? If so it's very possible that he's feeling that no matter what he does, it's wrong. Frankly it sounds very much like you are the one that is angry and need to face those feelings.

That really bothered me and i didn't speak to him again for the rest of the night. I feel like i'm losing him. If this is the way you chose to face an issue, this relationship, or any relationship really, doesn't stand a chance. Once again private space is acceptable, putting up walls of silence to punish him is so negative. You're saying this bothered YOU, think for a minute what he's thinking and how he's feeling. Every conversation turns into a major blow up, so he decides to do something playful to release some of the tension, to get some physical contact and positve re-enforcement and you flipped it on him, and further added insult to injury by then giving him the silent treatment.

He also stayed up pretty late last night and had the tv on pretty loud. It kept me up most of the time and he didn't seem to care. It's little things like that which make me question his feelings for me. I'll bet you a dollar to a hole in a donut that he's very much questioning your feelings for him. Wondering if he made the right choice moving to your location. No one's perfect, we all have faults. Long term relationships are all about give and take.

Also, he woke me up like an hour before i had to get up this morning. He was yelling at the cat of course so i know he didn't mean to do that, but he also stole my blankets which made me really cold. This has been a problem for couples for centuries. We have seperate blankets. When hubby comes to bed he brings another comforter. 1) because he's always colder than I and likes more covers 2) If he didn't I wouldn't even have a corner of the sheet covering me because he wraps himself up in it.

I just don't know how much more of this i can take. I am starting to wonder if him moving in with me was a huge mistake. Do you know how i can get him to open up more? Simply put, lighten up. Pick your battles. Make it comfortable for him to express how he's feeling without fear of the silent treatment. I would also add, very few men randomly express their feelings. Men are wired to hold things in, so he's probably never going to just chat about every feelings.

I'd really like to try to work this out, but he needs to make an effort to open up at least. When i try to communicate, he dodges my questions so apparently i am doing something wrong. That isn't the first time he dodged a question. He's done it at least a few times. I am feeling more and more like i want to distance myself from this relationship cuz this is depressing me. I left early for work this morning without saying goodbye and i feel like i wanna stay at work later as well just to be away.