(((Roman))) thanks so much. I've been called "blunt" myself, but from my view you were completely tactful and not harsh in the least. I too have only learned when faced with some hard truths. In my own case if they hadn't been delivered in a harsh tone of voice with a healthy dose of tough love (ie not putting up with my excuses or rationalizations) I would have never paid attention.

I think of it in terms of talking to your child or pet (not at all implying anyone is childish or petlike) if you say in a sweet voice "oh honey, don't go near the road" the kid/pet is going to keep heading for the road. If you shout "NO, stay AWAY from the road" they stop, then say in a sweet voice "thank you" the message is heard and understood. The most important messages in life are usually short, blunt, and to the point. And yet... I ramble on... lol I'm a work in progress.