I can tell her that, I am in a place where I am commited to saying and doing what I have to. If Im embarrassed, I'll say so. I just want to heal who I am, and not waste time. This aint going to be easy.

This is a great frame of mind to approach this with. When I came to this realization, that if I am embarrassed I will just say so, it was so freeing. We grow up becoming experts at hiding our true feelings and being ashamed of them. When we let go of this it really makes healing much easier.

Well....dt's neutrality (which isnt as neutral as she might think) has brought up a lot for me. I wonder if it is all/mostly transference or just a "normal" reaction to someone cold.