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Originally Posted by Brightheart
So what we are feeling we are feeling now...it's true emotion... but the meaning behind the emotion might really have to do with your past.
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OK- I understand this.......
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You are responding to general coldness with memories from your past, but you might also be responding to her coldness now...in the present.
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But I feel like a dope....I dont understand this
I dont understand what is the difference betweeen "normal" reactions to things, as in dt's coldness, or the reactions I might have from my past.
I am not sure if this is an example, but I will say it anyway:
I saw 2 friends this week who I had not seen in a really, really long time. We had a lot fun and were talking non-stop. From my past: I felt heard, cared about, validated and loved. Of course, there is a part of me that has difficulty taking it in, but I tried, I really tried and I liked being with my friends. What part would be from the present? The positive feelings of enjoying conversation? Maybe it doesnt matter that much which is from my past or present, but I am from a place of not being cared about, validated, heard, missed if I was gone or feeling loved, so it felt that much EXTRA good to be with friends who did all those tihngs for me. I miss having them in my life and living close by (they dont live in my area and we met at the airport).
I dont know if my question is clear. How do I know what is from now or the past.
I have this fear that I will project all these horrible feelings on to ftt that I put onto dt. Its just a matter of time. I feel sorry for her
I dont want to feel hurt by her when it isnt going to be her fault or anything she does. Its my past feelings.