NOTE: RESPONSE MAY TRIGGER

Yes you are corect. I believe some do not understand or have the ability to think about the mind doing that. That is why I recommend that people that need help should find a T who understands DID and works with it. Some professionals think it is just depression, anxiety, BP, etc.

I do not consider DID as inherent, however whole families may be affected by it. I find this to be true when the father is very dominant. Normally he was affected by his upbringing causing him to be that way. He then may marry a woman that was abused as a child. She has learned to be silent. Then the children are brought into this enviorment and unfortunately the cycle may be repeated. Then the children have no one to go to for help.

The individual child that is abused has their own identity and abilities to cope, so they may react differently and have different breaking points. Some fight back while others just draw inward to hide.

Denial is a very common symptom with DID. This is why a lot of survivors do not react until 30,40 or 50. They don't want to know, deny and even unintentionally protect their abuser. So this is why you can not blame your mother. She may not be able to see herself or think about it. This is very common symptom.

I hope this will help you. Take care.