My fiance and I have been together for 5 & 1/2 years. We are getting married in 2 months. This past week he moved in with me. I am a bit ocd. I have anxiety problems. I have night terrors. I suffer from depression off and on. My mood swings are quick and very dramatic. I also believe that I have ADD, but nothing is concrete. He knows all of this, but, I don't think he knew everything there was to me.
I like for everything to be in it's place. My house was already full and now with his stuff I'm having to reorganize it all. This takes time with me and it will irritate me until I get it done. He doesn't understand why I get so upset over small things so easily but I just can't help it.
The night terrors bother him because several times since he has moved in he has gotten to witness them. He knew I had "nightmares" but I don't think he realized how bad they are. He didn't realize it until I woke up screaming & crying uncontrollably for several minutes. It scares him.
Everyone that knows me knows that I can snap at the drop of a dime. Everything can be just fine and one thing can come across wrong and all hell breaks loose. Again, he knows this about me. He's willing to work through it.
One of the things we have fought about over and over again is my attention span. I can't pay attention longer than a few minutes, this drives him insane. I interrupt people and it can be really annoying. I can't stand it but if I can't get my thought out right then I'll forget it so I have to say it. Or if something else catches my attention (i.e. the tv) I don't hear a word you say.
I'm just afraid that he's going to realize that I'm much harder to handle than he realizes.
I try to explain to him that I don't mean to be the way I am and I don't want to be like this. He thinks that some of my ocd things can just be stopped. If it was that easy I would have probably done it by now.
I just don't know what to tell him as far as how to accept some of my problems that he thought he was just going to swoop in and fix. I've tried to tell him that it is not his job to fix me and he can't. All he can do is love and support me.
Anyone else who's been through the transition of moving in with your spouse or future spouse, help me to know how to explain to him better how to deal with me.
Thanks in advance.
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