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Old Oct 11, 2009, 08:53 PM
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Hi Bloom!

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what do i do to get her to be quiet and stop harassing me?
Do you have any experience with being treated like this as a child???

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i think i usually try to jump thru the hoops pleasing the inner child but she's never satisfied. that causes me a TON of stress and i just can't do it anymore. or, on the flipside i just do nothing and let all the balls drop. i think i need to find a happy medium.
It sounds like she is in control. Children shouldn't be in control. Listen to them but the adult needs to be in control (and this is very comforting for a child to know that they aren't in control, an adult is).

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i think i have a ton of people pleasing behavior because she is trying to protect me from being shamed. i'm not sure yet what to do with that. she puts so much pressure on me though that it paralyzes me.
If you could work on this people pleasing behavior that would give you some relief.
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