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Originally Posted by Ellexa
Very interesting topic! I, too, experienced a strogn desire to get rid of my "child self" because it made my life miserable (or so I thought). I can't send it to Siberia because, well, I am from Siberia so I was thinking Honduras or something :-)
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lol! you totally made me laugh here. honduras it is then.
i imagine the food will be good there.
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There is a great article about trauma and "ego states" that "self" splits into as a result of trauma nacronline.com/misc-articles/recovery-from-childhood-abuse The child self is container for the trauma aftermath (fear, shame. despair) so it's only natual that after many years of abamdonment this part of us is not cooperative and hard to deal with. Just like a regular child who is having a very hard life and feels no love or support from others. We have to be patient and we have to hear that part's story in order to heal. That article describes in detail all the steps that need to be taken in order to integrate that part of us.
The only problem with that article is that it suggests Christian approach as a main instrument of healing which might not be a a preferred method for everybody.
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thanks, i'll take a look at it when i get some time. funny, i had something happen today and i was really stressing and feeling hypervigilant and i think i was able to deal with that inner child and maybe even integrate it. i'm still so new at all this inner children/ego states thing, but i find it to be a very insightful and effective way to understand and deal with my internal conflicts.
ellexa, it's interesting you mention integration as i asked my t about that because i got the impression that that is more the older approach and now the focus seems to be more on harmonizing the ego states/parts/children. she said the focus has shifted now to having the parts cooperate or harmonize rather than integrate. i have to admit i think i like the idea of integration and have previously experienced a little of that.