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SUNNY2009 · Oct 12, 2009, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sannah

Hi Sunny, looking at yourself closely in therapy can cause some anxiety, especially when you realize that you need to bring stuff up that you would rather forget.

Your description of your family bothering you sounds very anxiety provoking.

It is okay to have a weaker side. We all have both a strong side and a weaker side. When you grow up in an abusive family you just want to forget this "weaker" side but it is important when you are in a healthy environment.

Do you think that allowing your T to be concerned about you/get closer to you scares you a bit because you have this big thick wall up for protection and it is scary to let anyone beyond this?

The above are good goals!

Thanks Sannah,
I guess the weaker side is tough to let in, I think for many years I have had to be strong and in a defensive position. So seeing a weaker side of me is definitely scary. I guess I am afraid of what comes in when I am weak.
Your comment on T getting closer is prob head on....I usually push people back by now and especially if they are a guy. I can get so close to people but then back off....totally just say "ok thats far enough. Dont come any closer or I will never be able to talk to you again"
Definitely a scary situation, though I dont want to push him back (thank God) I want his help. Strange that I have not gotten to this point with him...I am glad ... but maybe that is why I am so anxious too.

Thanks...I hope you ahve a great day