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Originally Posted by rainbow8
This is not an emergency, but it hurts. Any suggestions for what to tell myself or do? I feel better, but I can't get that picture of her with the kids, out of my mind! I was recently with my own grandchildren, but with my T, I want to be the child. It's an old feeling, so how am I supposed to cope with it?
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So it likely reminds you of what was lost to you. I agree with Tree that it's okay to allow these feelings. In fact sometimes, for me, getting right inside of painful feelings helped me find a lot of answers. Not saying you should do that, but don't punish yourself for them either. Feelings just are.
I think it's also okay to know that your T is human too. And maybe this was a reminder of this as well.
It's very challenging seeing your therapist in public, I agree. So many emotions...The first time I saw old T in public it felt as if I had been completely exposed to the entire world. I couldn't handle the intensity of my feelings and ran away.
The past few times I've done much better. It does take time to get accustomed to it.
I hope your H is more supportive from here on out.
