I like Sannah's wise response! Additionally, when you say you "should" be getting better or that your husband says you "should", should is a long way from could, and it is a word that is best shied away from. Perhaps your husband "should" go to therapy with you. I admire the fact that you have a husband, as I miss having one, but sometimes the misunderstanding of the other's conditions and confusions are a pain in the dierrierre - excuse spelling but I thought it would be a more appropriate word. Family therapy might be a plan. Anything to give H some insight. Perhaps he could do some reading in this forum? billieJ