Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbow8
and also that the fit between my Mom and me maybe being off somehow. I also had problems separating from my Mom, so that is a major reason I have trouble separating from my T. I wish I could stay attached forever.
The pain started when my T "ignored" me and paid attention solely to her family. I wanted her there for me. When she talked to me, I was okay. So it's when I wasn't the center of her attention anymore.
I think a lot is also due to my wanting the attention but not knowing how to ask for it. When I was about 10, I hurt my finger but never told my parents. It must have been broken because it's still crooked. I worried about physical problems but never confided in my Mom. Yet I was attached to her. Something was wrong.
So, my Mom gave me the attention all of the time, but she didn't comfort me because she didn't know that I needed comforting. I guess.
|
Hi Rainbow, here is an article on seperation anxiety and attachment.
http://family.jrank.org/pages/1486/S...n-Anxiety.html You have probably already read a lot about it.
It sounds like you were not securely attached to your mom. This could be for many reasons. For you to not tell her about your finger is significant to me. You must have sensed that your mom wasn't very attentive to you or you didn't want to bother her? So did your mom give you her attention all the time? Or was it distracted attention? Or maybe she just couldn't read your anxiety or didn't know what to do about it? Was she anxious?