Yoda,

Can I ask a couple of questions? Are you on a disability payment? and what support do you have?......can you delegate any of those tasks to others? How old is your son.....is he of age to follow up on his disability eligibility?

I don't know about America, but being on DSP here in Oz, we have access to support through Centerlink, depending on eligibility. Now, I have a fiance who is quite capable of taking care of the household bits and pieces, so I would not be eligible for help with that.......but if you ring social security and speak to a case worker, they may have provisions to help you. Local charities sometimes have "people for hire" to help you with big chores around the house. I think if you where to email your list to a case worker, they would try and help you.

All the other things regarding money, will be overseen by the fact that you do not work at the moment. Someone(I Think Lynn P) mentioned payment plans......yep, I am the queen of payment plans......with elec, phone, gas whatever I can get!!

Yoda, ask for help babe......I was a person who felt that i could do everything myself(I had a family that was NOT free with their kindness or time) and I did not have good friends......I was a single mother with a child and mentally ill......I had to swallow my pride and ask......centrelink(social security) really helped me as best as they could.

This is my fave saying when confronted with lists like yours......

"Anticipate the difficult by managing the easy"Taoist proverb

It might sound contrite right now, but say it all the time and BREATHE and it helps......well, it helps me...

The list may be huge, but not impossible.......take your time, do what you feel instinctively needs to be done first.......and remember your health.....

Take good care and good luck......my thoughts are with you..

Michah