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Oct 13, 2009, 05:58 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Fringes of the bell-shaped curve
Posts: 779
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Originally Posted by Rohag
If reaching out for friends hasn't worked for you, try not reaching out.
I know, that's counterintuitive. The suggestion is based on my long-term observation that some of the best things in life (friends, for example) are frequently acquired when you're looking for or doing something else.
Aside your friendship difficulties, do you have pursuits or activities that really excite you, that engage your spirit no matter what other people think about them? Those pursuits and the effects they have on you may draw others into your life far better than trying to get into others' lives.
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     Very wise words from Rohag here, (((CK23))). I also learned long ago that I can deal with my depression better than most "normal" people - they just really are not equipped to understand it, are overwhelmed by it, and have no idea how to "fix" us - so, it's best not to put that kind of pressure on them since they and we do not share "overlapping realms of experience." If you do not already have one, you would probably benefit from counseling with a therapist (T) who understands the depression and can assist you in better understanding it yourself, as well as learning coping skills to make the ride a little less bumpy. Of course, all of us here will gladly listen and provide whatever expertise and support we can - we know the terrain pretty well.
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(Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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