Hi CK,

Maybe you are coming across as too needy and that is scaring people off. While it is okay to take an interest in people, don't be too quick to ask them to lunch, happy hour, etc.

Also when you are at work...are you the one who is always striking up a conversation with people or do they seek you out to chat?

If you are the one who is always striking up a converstion, then I wouldn't waste my time on such folks as friendliness should always work both ways.

Finally... try to seek out clubs where people have the same interests or hobbies as you. This is important because friendships can be hard to form and impossible to keep if you and the other person (or persons) don't have anything in common.