Hi everyone,

I found out 3 months ago that my wife was having an emotional affair. I had a gut instinct that she was and confirmed this when I found transcripts of conversations that she had with this man. She had phone sex with him, they exchanged explicit photos, she belittled me to this man and talked about him leaving his wife and kids and the two shacking up. I own my part in the marriage not being as good as it should have been. She however is trying to blame me for her affair and will not take any responsibility. She wont talk about it with me and expects me to just get over it. Our marraige counselor is the same way. I need to be able to discuss it to heal. I am at a crossroads in my life. I want to work things out, but if she wont even discuss the affair and own it, I dont know how it will work. Any advice?