i am still quite new to all this, but i agree that i have read postings and just dont quite know what to say. although i feel for the situation being told i don't feel like i have anything really helpful to offer.

also, i know that for me, i read what i feel is going to be similar to my personal situation because i want to seek advice for myself as well. so that's a factor too.

thus far, everyone seems quite helpful so please don't take it personal