oy, this happens to me quite a lot of the time!! a lot of it comes down to different time zones, too - because i'm australia, i often have to wait many hrs until someone has replied, by which time i'm even more in a depressive funk than i was before reaching out.

i've started to learn that ppl aren't ignoring me on purpose, so if i am feeling brave sometimes i will bump up my post. i find that if i am very specific about what i need then ppl feel more confident about trying to get those needs met. also, i usually write that if ppl don't know what to say, i would still appreciate a hug if they have any to offer. it always feels nice when ppl take the time to respond - just acknowledge they have read your post - even if they can't (for whatever reason) reply at that time.

the other thing of course is that the more you post, i think the more ppl recognise you and want to help out because they know your story a bit more (so feel more confident giving relevant advice). this isn't to say you need to post really long posts, but even a few short replies to other ppl's threads can help. i do try to look out for the newbies, but i don't often visit this part of PC. i hang around the psychotherapy section most, because i know most ppl there and they know me.