It sounds like he needs to feel needed - tongue twister I know LOL. Sounds like he derives boosts to his self esteem by wanting to feel he has a purpose in your life. For example many substance abuse relationships will have one partner who's stimulated by feeling they're needed. This also branches out into personalities like 'enablers' or 'rescuers' - people who swoop in when things are dramatic and solve problems or give comfort. Maybe he finds you're to independant and he doesn't feel he has a purpose. This isn't your fault though. Ask him what would make him feel like he's needed. Give him some jobs to do that are done by him. Maybe his previous relationships involved needy women or his mom was needy. Best of luck.
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Last edited by lynn P.; Oct 14, 2009 at 02:09 PM.
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