lrks, I thought by in the fourth step the abuse part meant taking some blame for it as well, but my temp. sponser said that's not what it means... I've been sexually abused a lot in my life, and I too couldn't find how it was my fault in any way. David, my temp. sponser, said I was right to feel that way. I can't explain how he said that part of the step meant, I can't remember his exact words for it, but it wasn't your fault and that part of the step isn't intended for you to take blame for it. Wish Richard was in here right now, I'm sure he could explain it better. Richard, where are ya man?