OK, here is my take on taking responsibility for my part in things.

This taking responsibility thing pertains to me as an adult. The things that happened to me as a child, happened TO me, I didn’t bring them on myself. As a child we are NOT, I repeat NOT responsible for any part of the things that are done to us. We were children. It is the responsibility of the adults in our lives to look out for our best interests. If something bad happens to a child (abuse) it is the sole responsibility of the perpetrator, it is in no way the responsibility of the child. We have no part in it to make amends for.

That covers the child.

If we are talking about abuse that has happened to us as adults, That is another question. I don’t think it is too much of a stretch to find my part in getting drunk in a bar and being taken advantaged of. I make no excuses for the man who may have hurt you, he was dead wrong in what he did, but again, the question I need to ask is what part did I play in that sorry outcome.

Not knowing any of the details of the story, that is my take on the question.

I hope I have been of some help.
Richard