very good words! I'm with you... Welcome to PC, Jmall!!!
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I have to pretend to be somebody else just to get by. Especially in relationships. Most people HAVE social skills, while... I (and I think others with AS probably as well) have to learn them scientifically. I can fit in with any group of people. But not as myself. So while at parties, and social gatherings people tend to think I am awesome, and the life of the party...
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yes... this goes for me too.
Growing up... year by year... you learn the "
right way" to act, but... it doesn't come as a
natural thing... I worry a lot when I'm with a group of people or with a friend... sort of wanting to have it confirmed that; I'm laughing in the "
right way"... not too loud... sitting down with my body positioned in the "
right way"... do I look the others in their eyes enough?... etc. I know how to do it... but still it feels sort of "faked"... uncomfortable.
When I find a really really good friend... I'd do anything for that person...
You can often read about how - 'people with Asperger’s are lacking empathy’.
When you have Asperger’s you might have a difficult time when it comes to how much empathy you should show... or in what way to do it. We're
not lacking empathy - but we might not show it in the same way as most people do. I personally tend to
feel and show "too much" empathy. I care too much and I end up drained after trying to help everyone around me... forgetting about taking care of myself.
/daynnight