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Now, even though I don't attend AA, I find my mind going back to those days because the program made such an impression upon me. The slogans and sayings especially stick with a person. Things like:
It's not so much a drinking problem as it's a thinking problem.
Alcoholics don't have relationships, they take hostages.
Don't form attachments in your first year of sobriety.
If you really, REALLY look at these and some of the stories in the big book, there is solid reflection that the use of alcohol goes along with a skewed concept of healthy relationships. I had the same problem. I could never figure out healthy relationships. It goes way back for me, in every aspect of my life.....home life, friendships, romantic relationships, employment, marriages....it's only after years and years of therapy that I have had some semblance of a normal marriage.
The life I live today is NOTHING like the life I lived previously, even eight years ago. My current husband and I had to learn new things in order to keep our commitment to each other. It's damn hard.
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 Vickie
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