One more thought on the question,
If a woman is home in bed and a rapist breaks into her room and violates her, or going home from work she is attacked in the parking lot, she played no part in that crime other than that of victim.

Not every instance of abuse as an adult, does the victim play a part in the outcome. And she should not be made to feel that she did. An open and honest relationship with a good sponsor should clear up any misconceptions about these matters.

Your friend on this road to the good stuff,
Richard