Very true... I think by that question, it means times that you could have prevented it from happening. Such as going to the bar, getting drunk, and someone takes advantage of you. Going to a party, getting drunk/high, someones there who's putting the moves on you and you're too out of it to stop it. Had you not been drinking and was in your right mind at the time, it probably wouldn't have happened. I think that's what that means by owning up to your part in the situations.