Googley, control is a big thing. People who have mental and emotional issues grew up with no sense of control and many still don't have it. One step in getting better is to gain a healthy sense of control in life and healthy is the key word here. I think that helping professionals see this issue all the time and I think that old school is to try to control the clients. This NEVER works! Power struggles will ensue. Helping someone to get better includes empowering them so that they can get better. It never should include power over them. Getting this issue settled in your own mind is very important and you are more than capable of doing that. It is a personal journey that we all need to take.........