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I just get this icky feeling with all the yes, no, yes, no, yes, no, yes, no going on. Who would want to put up with that going on all the time? You can hardly make a decision let alone know if the decision you are able to make is the right one! Your children will be happier if it is calm. Children hate it if their mother is unhappy. It hurts them. They will be better if they feel that you know what you are doing and you know that what you are doing is the absolute best thing for you and for them. I know that you won't always be sure of that in your heart or gut, 100% of the time, but if you act that way, they will feel confident in you. You can tell them that you may have made a mistake if you want. But you don't have to. Simply tell them that it will be right if you guys are on your own for a while.
My personal opinion is this man is self-absorbed. Sorry for being honest but I have known men like him. Please consider whether or not he will make a good step-father for your children. I have been down this road. It is very important. I just get an icky feeling about him. Please don't confuse gratitude with love.
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 Vickie
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