I agree with AAAAA ..... you are definitely better off away from him at this point. I truly hope you can not contact him about this information you have.

I completely understand how you are feeling. No matter that you are now divorced, it happened while you were still married. And dammit, it hurts! I'm so sorry

Remember that even though you are now divorced, your feelings, emotions and thoughts don't just stop. There is a grieving period and an anger period and a "good riddance" period you will go through before you find your peace.

One of the things that helped me to get thru my divorce from the first husband who was abusive was this....no matter how much I wished I could have slung mud at him, we had children together. I had to respect them and try to keep a civil relationship with the sperm donor for their sake. I also knew in my heart that "what goes around, comes around" and at some point, he would get his come uppance! And he has....and I've been able to see it. It's unfortunate now that he suffers so, but he did bring it on himself....so I have little compassion for him at this point.

Hang in there hon......better days are coming!