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Oct 16, 2009, 12:22 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2009
Location: New England
Posts: 12
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Originally Posted by Jmall
Therapy has always just depressed me more. I start getting this feeling like... "Oh awesome, the only people I can get to care about the things really going on with me, are getting paid... sweet."
Yeah I know I should get help, but the problem is. I don't want to let my family and friends know just how depressed I am. It would just make them feel bad. Which I don't want. So I am hoping that here, I will be able to talk to other people etc, at least enough to get my motivation up to do something else.
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Well, yeah, if you don't tell family and friends about your condition, then the only people who will care about what's really going on with you -- IRL anyway -- will be people who are getting paid! Who else is there besides family and friends?
I'm not completely convinced that the reason you haven't told family and friends is that it would "make them feel bad." (I'm also not sure what kind of "bad" you mean -- bad as in feeling guilty because they feel responsible, which might make sense for your parents, or bad as in bad for you, that is, they would pity you, which might be true for family or friends?) In any case, you don't really know how they would respond. I suspect you are also motivated by the fear that they might feel that you are WEAK if you admit your depression to them. They might. They also might surprise you by being more supportive than you give them credit for.
Of course, even if you have supportive family and friends, that doesn't mean you wouldn't also benefit by seeing a therapist. Therapists are professionals who see depressed people every day. They know what to say and what to advise that will be HELPFUL. (Well, some of them do, anyway. Unfortunately, there are also some less than stellar therapists out there, which is why it's so important to find one you feel good about and comfortable with.)
I hope you're right and that your interactions here will help to motivate you to decide what your next move should be.
Just curious: what are your thoughts on medication?
Take care,
BlueOak
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