I don't want to make it sound like it's ok for them to do it, but doctors can sometimes be a bit unattatched and maybe insensitive. By no means is this all of them, but it does happen.

Perhaps you could find a nurse that can do the test, or go to a GUM clinic where they sometimes can be done (look online to find one near you that does, or phone to see if they do). These places may be able to help put your mind at rest a bit better, the GUM clinic especially because this is their specialised area.

A bad experience can make it hard to do again, but you also know it could be a life saving test and if the right people can do it and help you through it then it could be a quick and easier one too.

I hope that helps a bit. xx