Hey Q,

I am a psych major and I am going to assume that the counselor was trying to gain some insight into your life and life experiences. A lot of how we act in adult relationships today are colored by our childhood experiences. I would agree that you shouldnt make any decisions on your marriage right now, unless there is abuse. I had some similar issues like you as a child and therapy has helped a great deal. You dont have to say anything to your sister, if ever, until your ready. Let your therapist help you through the tough times and I wish you well.