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theotterone · Oct 16, 2009, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by salukigirl

This is one of those times that I think you living a better life is really the best revenge. He seems like a person that does all these things just to see if he has control over your emotions. Dangling you around like a toy and changing moods all the time. Seems very self-absorbed and just wants control over you. I think the more he tries these things and the more you resist, it will drive him insane. People like this cannot stand to be ignored and if you do that, that will be the best revenge on him. Because sinking to his level and throwing something in his face is exactly what he wants - he wants to drag you down and make you miserable.

I know it's hard to do but I think if you stay away from him, and keep contact to an absolute minimum, it will get easier over time. Good luck!!!! And, yes, you are DEFINITELY better off without him.

I totally and whole-heartedly agree!

I had something similar happen in a friendship, rather than romantic relationship. I had someone who I thought was a friend stab me in the back. Now, when I am a friend, I am fiercely loyal. When my best friend and I made a connection and formed a strong bond last fall, he was working later so he would wait after work for me to get done and then we would go out or to his place to hang with his family (regular thing now, the hanging out). When we would leave, we would go through the lobby where the back stabber worked. My BF would get "if looks could kill" looks as we walked by. The back stabber (ha! BS! Appropriate!) has since left his job, but the BF and I get a chuckle out of it to this day.

Stay strong. It's a hard time. Just chalk it up to one more good reason you split, and one more to stay away.