After 32 years of trying to show my wife my love, it finally dawned on me 3 years ago that she just doesn't love. She has expressed this to me verbally many times along with, "why don't you go get a hooker" or "Go to a bar and pick up a woman".

She wants a divorce, so do I. For three years I've slept in a recliner chair in my den, and lived like a boarder in my own house waiting for her to file the papers. We have been totally separated under a single roof now for about 3 years. A few days ago I asked where she was at with filing divorce papers and she went nuts! Horrible behaviors I don't even want to bring up here.

Now, she WON'T work, I pay the mortgage(s), all utilities, all Bills period! and she gets $1600.00 a month to do what she wants with. Part of that used to be groceries be she hasn't bought food for me in 3 years nor has she cooked a single meal in all that time. All my eating is at restaurants or something from one of the 'OTHER' basic food groups: canned, frozen, prepared, or fast.

I make pretty good money but there is no way I can afford to maintain 2 households and I really have nowhere else to turn. I've told her that I won't leave her destitute and of course she owns half of all our assets (and debts). I don't think she's going to file...should I? Man if I do there will be hell to pay under this roof. HELP!