That is a really deep question. I've been trying to figure out what I really think, as opposed to the varying ideas from all the theorists I've been reading. They vary widely, BTW. Some emphasize social influence very highly, but others do say that individual conficence and self-worth matters more.

Okay, I say that our true value is infinite. That comes mostly from a religious point of view. Self-worth, on the other hand, is definitely influenced by social factors in my opinion. It feels good to be thought well of, and it hurts to be criticized. A child who grows up with abuse or who gets a lot of disapproval often has low self-esteem throughout life. However, some are able to overcome it and develop a healthy self-image anyway. Maybe they have had help from someone who gives them the approval they need, or maybe they have an ability to value themselves internally and not let the negative stuff hurt them so much.

Social influence is a factor, particularly early in life, but seeing the value in oneself and basing your self-esteem on internal factors is not only possible, it is healthier than depending on other people's opinions. This can be learned, and once it is learned it becomes harder for external negativity to have such a detrimental effect.
Wendy

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