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lynn P. · 08:38 PM

Hi Marjan,
you ask some very difficult questions. Wouldn't it be nice if there was a magical way to be happy. It seems like we're always searching for the elusive happiness. It's also different for each person so what works for one might not work for the other. You hear people say "if I had _____ I would be happy or "if I find this job or this person I would be happy" - always searching for what we don't have. I think one major aspect most people are missing, is to first be thankful for what they have at this moment - even if it's simple like a roof over your head etc. Then you need to figure out what are the attainable goals that would improve your life.

One of the most important ingredients to a happy life, I think is to live a balanced life. Also it's important to treat yourself well with healthy eating, exercise and relaxation. It's fine to think about the past and learn but don't dwell on it. You also don't want to focus to much on what will happen in the future because we only really have this moment. This brings us to living in the present and living a mindful life. Think of how many terminally ill people who would love to have another chance to live a few more years if they could only have their health again. I think you should for now, just concentrate on getting yourself centered and don't worry to much about finding a partner. These are just my opinions and there are many other ways to improve a persons life.

For sleeping I think it's important to leave your worries at the door. Make your room nice and peaceful - make sure it's dark. practice deep slow breathing exercises while relaxing one by one each body part. Limit caffeine, don't exercise too close to the evening, don't watch TV or go on the computer too close to bedtime. If you find you're thinking too much have a notebook or journal beside your bed and write down yout thoughts. When you're done close the book and imagine this symbolizes you're done worrying. I hope this helps.