Thanks so much everyone for your support and insight, you've all helped!
(this friend isn't mean, I think it was me who thought of the word (I'm not disappointed at all if I'm not "non functional") They don't tend to label me but don't disagree with me much either.. they aren't "psychologically minded" )
(actually a dr used a similar but more insulting word about me which was what brought the discussion about, and to me, hearing that from a dr who offers no real help... is "hurtful" to say the least )
I'm sure I'll wish I'd deleted this reply, its off topic and irrelevant, my apologies


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