a lot of ppl here talk about their 'abandonment issues'. i have probably used it a few times myself, but i dont really get it/relate to it, to be honest.

one of my big fears is that i will open up/be vulnerable and ppl will reject me. it doesn't feel like 'abandonment', so much, because... i dont know... that word makes it sound like you are somehow dependent on the other person, and i am fortunate in that i have a strong belief in my own ability to get by without the help of others. rejection, on the other hand, feels like coming from a more stable base but where you want just the emotional connection and that gets denied because of who you are.

i dont know if i'm just being pedantic. maybe ppl use 'abandonment' to loosely cover 'rejection' also?

the other thing is that (to me) 'rejection' seems like it is something personal (someone making the wilful decison to reject you), whereas 'abandonment' could possibly encompass other reasons that have nothign to do (in a direct manner) with the person being abandoned - other commitments, inability to provide etc. so, i'd prefer abandonment over rejection, but i dont know if that is just my interpretation on the two.

thoughts?

edit: 3am here. it has just occured to me that maybe i have posted this before? or have i only written it out in my head? sorry if i am posting the same bloody thread again, lol. i really should be in bed.