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Old Oct 17, 2009, 04:26 PM
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Hi Deli,

I haven't been talking in the threads you are referring to, but I will give you my opinion on how I see them. For me abandonment is leaving or not being connected, whereas rejection has more of a value judgment associated with it. Abandonment is more, I'm leaving you, whereas rejection is, you don't live up to my standards or I'm disgusted (add your own adjective here) with you as a person and so don't want to associate with you. I guess for me they are not two mutually exclusive things. You can abandon a person without rejecting them, but not necessarily the other way around. (I would have to put more thought into that.)

I also think these are very subjective constructs depending where one is sitting. If person A becomes busy and stops hanging out with their friend (person B), person B may see it as abandonment whereas the other person A may see it as moving on with their life. And how one interprets the situation may have to do with where they are in their life and other stressors and supports that they have. My two cents.
Thanks for this!
~Blossom~