i liked my t as a person right from the first phone call..and even more once i met her. felt safe with her? well that took longer...as a person with a history of abuse safety takes time...trust even longer....even now after 3 years sometimes it vanishes in scary moments...sometimes even in non-scary moments.

that said...i feel blessed to have found t...she is great with me. her background or "schooling?" damned if i know...nor do i care. it works for me...i know she genuinely cares about me & the peeps and wants what is best for us...not what is best in her eyes for us.

we have thrown about a million different things at her and she keeps juggling them and hasn't dropped only but 1 or 2 balls yet and that's pretty good...so i have no complaints.

i think if she wasn't my t we would be good friends...but alas that won't happen outside of the t thing & thats okay. ...as long as things are good inside the t thing.