I have also recently just had sex with the male alone. He made me have orgasms. So thats where some of the complicated feelings come from. I think its a valued judgement to say sex was made for two people only. Thats the way that feels most natural for people and most sexual positions only have two people involved but sexual activity can involve as many or as little people as you like or is possible. Lol! As long as it is consensual. Also sexual activity alone is quite normal also.