I became so dependent on my boyfriend (now my husband) & he broke up w/me when he went away to college (he was 2 yrs. ahead of me). It devastated me. I was ready to fall apart, but then a friend told me to that it would be desperate to follow him to the college he was going to (as had been the plan).

So I applied to another univ., went there & got some independence. He came back after about 3 mos. begging me to come back w/him. By this time I had dated some other guys (1st for me as we got together when I was 15 & he was 16) & I wasn't sure about getting back together. Well, my independence & reluctance made him pursue me all the more. Before I was so dependent on him, that it was not healthy. Now--I was an attractive person as I was a "complete" person, able to be on my own.

Don't be desperate or think you have to "take care of him" somehow. If he is the "one" it will work out without your having to put a lot of effort in it. Develop yourself & you will become much more attractive to everyone--including yourself!