I felt safe with my T right away. I remember her saying "You can tell me anything, even sexual fantasies about me. Nothing shocks me." With other Ts I had, I always wished they would reassure me that I could tell them anything but they never did.

My T talks easily about herself, and that helped me feel safe too. It still took awhile to talk about certain issues, but she made it easy to tell her anything, just by the way she reacted, or maybe because she didn't react. She accepted everything I said.

I didn't feel as safe with the first T I went to because she didn't tell me much about herself, so I felt like she was a stranger. It took a long time for me to open up to her and feel safe.