Hello Blue - I didn't check your age and don't know what kind of therapy you've went through - but my experience has been this

My therapist told me once that I can control my dreams.... huh, yeah right.

Well as time passed and the dreams continued I noticed changes in them.
When SHE (mother) was treated me badly I would ask her why.
Then as the dreams continued over time...... I got to the point where I no longer let her hurt me in any way.
I actually saw her for what she really is in life.........

I does take time.... But I was amazed through my dreams - I grew and was afraid of her no more.

P.S. doesn't mean I don't still have dreams now and then, but in them she's always acting the fool