file for divorce, this is a nightmare for you, why go on this way for 10 more years? it's not fair, she is taking from you and giving you nothing, end it... fast! move on and live your own life, she needs to move out and get her own life....good luck and don't look back.... i have been here, and i filed, best thing I ever did, i lived like a roommate for 7 years, i cooked, cleaned, shopped, paid bills, it was terrible, i had to find strength and I just did it, everything fell into place and I am happier now in my life, married my soulmate 2 years ago and i have never looked back!