It took me a LONG time to become comfortable with my T. When I first started I tried hard to find some fault with her, but couldn't really come up with anything objective to dislike her for. I honestly for about the first 6-8 months could have bumped into her on the street and not even recognized her. But everytime I tried to convince myself that she was a fake, not a good match, didn't really give a crap about me or my issues...she would do some little thing or something she had told me weeks before would make sense and the argument I have built up in my head would fall apart. There wasn't any one thing that happened that BOOM! I realized I was exactly where I needed to be and seeing who I needed to see. With me is was a slow painful process of breaking down my resistance to being comfortable. When I look back now I can see that my T really hasn't changed much in the way she deals with me...the change has mostly been within me.

I think what my T did most was provide a very consistant professionally careing environment and waited patiently for me to see it, explore it in my own way, and learn to use it to heal.It's taken me 2 yrs to get comfortable, but I feel very grateful for her patience.