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Originally Posted by jensasweetie
I am not sure where to start. I have made posts here and there over the last couple weeks; I am just so confused. I need to know how we can pull ourselves out of the holes we are in at times.
I have a lot of baggage. lol. There have been many things in life that I rolled with. I am not sure that these things were ever dealt with. Some major, some not so much. Anyway, I am at a point now where everything around me seems to be crumbling. I am aware that the majority of it may be my mindset. How do I shake that. It seems impossible to find the silver lining; although I always in the past was the positive one. I feel as though I have lost myself.
I know I haven't given a ton of info here. Let me know if you need examples. I guess the attitude is the biggest problem and all the rest are symptoms of it. Believe me, it is tearing apart my world as we speak and am losing all the imp things to me 
Any insight will be greatly appreciated.
Huggs
Jen |
Jen, the first thing i notice is that you are soo ready to assume that the "problem" is you , your attitude etc. Maybe a reframe or two. First the issue isn't always a problem its sometimes an experience you can't proces, arn't enjoying and don't know how to change, no judgement ever really helps. Next, the fear concerns me, safety is always necessary for positive change and the first step is to create some for yourself. now maybe you'll be good to go. my advice, think about this possibility, the only difference between grief and joy is fear. deciding what you are afraid of, how to managethat and feeling what is real to be afraid of (fear is frequently about what we are sure will happen but hasn't yet) and then seeing what is just something we are afraid to feel. meanwhile I'll be pulling or ya whatever and wherever you might be.
Hang in there there are more of us who care how you feel than you can imagine