I had dated my ex for 2 years and i moved to another state where his mom and dad took us in so we could live together and "be a family" and get married and all that. Yea...so...she liked me for the first couple months then just stopped. She even went to the extent of having her sons (my bf at the time) ex girlfriend move in!! Now I had no where to go..i was stuck across the country away from my family in a home that I had to clean cook and do the chores for. I had to serve them, i had to relandscape the whole yard..i put a pond in and everything for them. I had to pay them 500 dollars a month and buy them new appliances all because i was living there. I agreed to paying rent, since it was only fair however i think it should have been less since i was sharing a room with his sister and the ex girlfriend that his mom wanted to marry!! She kept putting the ex and my bf in the same room and talking about their future and getting married. My bf said that he loved me and wouldnt date her and just to not worry...yea...ok....in the end he never stood up for me. He never took the time to support me or defend me when his family wouldnt talk to me for months at a time. One time the whole family except him didnt talk to me for 3 months because his mom told them not to. In their culture she is the ruler and if they didnt do as she said they were considered outcasts. Thats a long time without human interaction. Eventually she kicked me out, i was homeless and alone. Thank God a coworker took me in when i called her in hysterics about having no place to go. After nine days i took a plane and went back home. My husband now supports me, he defends me if his mom has an issue (she never does, only once when she questioned my actions as a mother because i didnt do things the way she did it) He stands up for me in a respectful way. He listens to her but then he explains why i do what i do or why i said what i said. I also talk to her. Your boyfriend has to try and find a happy medium. If he refuses to stand up for you you might want to reconsider the relationship. Will you be able to handle not feeling supported by your boyfriend when attacked verbally by his mother? If you have no problem with it then just let it go. If you do then you need to talk to him and explain the situation and that you would appreciate it if he talked to his mother. I dont believe this is putting him in the middle like ive heard. Its his mother, his responsibilty. Its your mother, its your responsibilty. You know your mothers better than anyone else, therefore know how to approach the situation and know what to say to not make it worse and to enlighten them on the subject at hand. Thats my opinion. Whatever you do is your choice and i wish you all the luck in the world.