Any advice on how to deal with a 13 year ol stepson who lives with us but tries to make life hell?His mother who is involved by phone once a week does not help she condones his attitude and behavior.I love my SS but dont think I need to put up with the disrespect anylonger.Examples he is hateful to me and his father,says he doent have to follow the rules here,told me I am an outsider he just considers me as a maid.Does not want to go on family outings because me and my son are not his family,just wants it to be him and his dad.I cleaned both boys room and he tore up his and even took the clean pillow cases off his pillows because I put it on.Is totally disrespectful,has blown his nose on the wall,refuses to go to school if he dont want too.I dont know there is too much to put here.I have been reading about Disengaging and wonder if that would be the way to go now.His mother has said she doesnt want him but is also working real hard to cause problems here.She does not help by telling him things to do.He has been to therepy before and it doesnt seem to help.He now wants to move with her mother and says he will make everybody miserable until he gets too.Well any input will be appreciated!And to add once we had a pretty good family going on here till it all went crazy!!And we have tried talking to her but she just screams and cusses so THAT dont work..HELP