Big hugs to you, Elysium.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I think what you're feeling is totally normal, and I would feel the same way. It does sound very inappropriate that you were referred to old T by her husband. I'm no expert in professional misconduct, but something does not sound right about that.....especially because their relationship was not disclosed to you.

I can really relate to what you described about the threats to terminate therapy, and the situation with the lawsuit sounds especially regretful. Have you thought about filing a complaint against the old T? It certainly does not sound like she had your best interests at heart.

You DO have a right to feel betrayed.

I hope you like your new T......I hope that she will help you work through these issues and feelings of betrayal, and continue to work on what brought you to therapy in the first place.